The good girl went crazy.
Here is a health questionnaire: do you put the needs of everyone else above yours? Do you have a hard time saying the word “no”? Do you live in fear that people will be angry with you?
And do you also have a belly pain?
If so, I could have “good girl syndrome”, so says Diane Lange, a therapist and a “positive expert” whose most recent book, “Worty” seeks to help women free themselves from feelings of indignity and patterns that thank people.
Good girl syndrome is not alone in your head, you can also physically get sick.
“Many women have [good girl syndrome]”Lange said to the post.
“Many of us were raised to be the enriching, to be silent and make sure that everyone else is happy. It is a trait learned. Men can be complacent, but it is mainly that I see who deals with a peasant of people or a complacent of people.”
An old people of the people, Long is familiar with the psychological symptoms of the Good Girl Syndrome, which include having no limits, fear of conflict and self -expression, “perfectionism and always Welllya in front of you [because] They are more important than you. “
But not all are aware that this exhausting and inducting anxiety behavior also has a physical cost in the form of “the same symptoms as stressful problems, headaches, affects their dream, can cause changes in appetite,” he said.
If you think you or some who love have a good girl syndrome, the good news is that there is a cure.
The first step, according to Long, is to admit that you have it to “be aware of your behavior.”
“Learn about the limits and begin to establish them, which includes learning to say no and have self -care,” he advised.
Next, he recommends slowly taking “small steps to make self -care: it could be as simple as lying before, eating foods that are good for you and walking to walk. Add a little full attention to your self -WARE -WARE.”
Your personal favorite of self -care? Diary.
“I love making the morning ‘brain landfill’ where you write in a newspaper every morning,” he said. “You write what is in mind, released on paper. Without trial or spelling corrector.”
It may be necessary, but that does not mean that I can wait for it to be easy.
“Make the commitment to change your behaviors, but remember that it will be terrifying,” he said. “The change is scary. You are changing and saying no and having limits will affect others around you, so prepare so that people get angry or for the relationship to change. That is a sign that you are the work.”
Recovery can be painful, but freedom at the other extreme does everything for time.
