Dear lady manners: I work as a accommodator in a popular country house that houses a lot of sporting and entertainment events (concerts, comedy shows, etc.). One of the rules is that we are not allowed to accept advice.
Sometimes, a guest will sacrifice a tip, usual for something I have done beyond simply helping them find their seat. In those cases, I thank you for your childhood, but let them know what the policy of the place is.
Most of the time it is enough, but sometimes, a pattern will insist that he take the money, often commenting that “nobody will know.”
I am not sure to say when they continue to press. I certainly do not want to be rude (and sincerely appreciate your generosity), but Neith I want to violate the rules and accept money.
What do you recommend to tell people who demand that you accept a tip?
Soft reader: Without a doubt, these people think they are convincing a benevolence in the advice to challenge your employer. And it is unlikely to imagine some reason to reject money other than the fear of being caught.
As Miss Manners has observed, the inflection system draws the worst of all. Well not everyone; No you.
The answer to “Nobody will know” should be a small unfortunate smile and the comment, “but I know.”
Dear lady manners: Would it be acceptable to include a PS for an invitation that establishes “it will not be consulted to respond” no, it cannot attend “, and the plans will be finally agreed”?
I am simply tired of the irresponsibility of many invitations.
Soft reader: It is probably not as tired as Miss Manners is or point out how rude it is to ignore hospitality sacrifices.
Never Esberthess does not care about threats, and reminders tend to be ignored. What is to send to those who have not responded to the message “I’m sorry, we beat you on the 10th?”
Dear lady manners: My beloved and I are planning a small and intimate wedding.
Instead of involving an printer, planning to write letters to each guest, sharing the details of the celebration and asking them to attend.
My mother is concerned that the lack of a formal printed invitation looks like a rape on the label. Can you advise us?
Soft reader: Return every time the engraving was invented, a violation or label would have consulted for use in its place or handwriting. And Miss Manners assures her that her hand still exceeds the mechanical process, regardless of how to spend.
As it is an intimate wedding, it does not need to imitate the third -person formal turn, but, if you prefer, you simply write cards in the first person who indicate your desire to be attenuated.
Dear lady manners: What is your opinion about the spray parties?
Soft reader: As much as it appreciates attenuating the usual shower, Miss Manners finds the unfortunately vivid name in relation to babies.
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