Dear Harriette: With respect to “On The Road”, the female reader interested in solo trips: as a veteran vagabund, I am highly alone.
On the one hand, people are often very focused on what they want a trip, and sometimes with a friend, these wishes can collide. There may be little space for commitment when time is limited.
In addition, if you go with a friend, this is the main person with whom you will be talking, but for yourself, it is much more likely that you interact with the locals, even with the differences in languages! – or other travelers. This points to one of the great advantages of travel: other experienced cultures.
The only two unpleasant trips I have had were when I went with a friend and things that extended.
I also recommend keeping the itinerary as flexible as possible, which cannot happen on a group trip. You don’t know how you will like a place until you get there.
Go alone and overcome any anxiety!
– Go alone
Wanted to go alone: Wow! This situation really hit a nerve for many people. Thanks for sharing your perspective.
I think that for whatever it is adventurous enough to make a solo trip, that is great. I agree that when you are alone, you create space to do what you want without commitments. Just make sure someone at home has their itinerary in case of emergency.
Dear Harriette: Recently I broke with my boyfriend, and just although I know it was the right decision, I can’t stop thinking about him.
We were together for a long time, and he was a large part of my daily life. Now that it is gone, everything feels empty.
I keep catching me wanting to send you a text message, asking me what you are doing and reproducing our memories in my head.
Even when I try to distract myself with work, friends or hobbies, he still appears in my mind, and it seems that I cannot shake the feeling of missing him.
What makes it more difficult is that I go and come between emotions. Some days, I feel strong and I remember Myelf why we broke. Other days, Romantizo our relationship and I convince myself that I might make an error.
I know that in the background that moving forward is the best for me, but I don’t know how to stop obsessing with him and really let him go. How do I break this cycle and advance without constantly thinking about it?
– How to let go
Loved how to let it go: You have to be patient. You need time to put aside a relationship that was significant for you.
Decide that you have finished. Do not contact him by any reference. When his thoughts appear, breathe deeply and invite you to let them go. Do not enjoy any fantasy about him. Stop desire and dream immediately.
You have the ability to have yourself, including your thoughts. It may seem a battle at this time, but over time, it will grow to accept that the chapter of your life has ended, provided it keeps the closed.
Don’t call. Do not send text messages. Do not troll your social networks. Don’t talk to your friends about him. Advance.
Harriette Cole is one of life and founder of Dreamlepers, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harrietcole.com oc/or Andrews McMeel Syndionction, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.
