Dear lady manners: What are exactly the rules for saving seats in an informal event where seats are not assigned?
When they invited me to the presentation of my nephew martial arts, I arrived half an hour before to keep seats for my family of five (three of us were present), the others came from work and could not arrive early.
A woman came and sat in one of the stored seats, only thought that my jacket was in the seat, and I said that I was reserved.
There was no admission rate for the event, and there were many other aviaxable seats, although my stored seats had a better view, so I arrived early.
The woman refused to move and passive aggressively made her teenage children come and sit at her side and basically half of my lap.
I ended up moving because I felt uncomfortable and I had to stop at the back and lose action and the opportunity to take photos. It really ruined my night. Did I be wrong to assume that I could save the seats?
Soft reader: It is when the entire front ranks are stored in the work of high school that Miss Manners declares rudeness.
Its invented but beautiful sound rule is: no more than one seat saved per person already sitting. Then his situation described.
But only for free, she will give her another advice: keep seats between the three, instead of the end (that is, person, empty seat, person empty, person). Others will be less likely to want to go up and sit next to strangers.
Then, when the rest of your group gets there, move.
It helps if large amounts of bags and coats are piled up in the empty seats, and makes it more convincing than those who are absent are in the bathroom.
Dear lady manners: I was in a cafeteria with my spouse when a couple or neighbors entered. They approached us and said Hello.
I would have liked that we have joined us because we occasionally sit together, and I want to remain in good terms with them. Besides, I felt social. But I didn’t know how to say the invitation.
“Would you like to join us?” They seem not to leave them well if they don’t feel like socializing.
Does Miss modals have any suggestion on how to process in such circumstances?
Soft reader: “We would love to join us” it has a subtle difference. Since it is a statement and not a question, your neighbors have options, including the answer without answering.
They could 1. Accept, 2. Say: “Thank you, but we have a pressing issue to discuss, and we don’t want to bore it” or, less desirable, 3. Say “thanks”, go to have your coffee and never come back.
Miss Manners awaits for her good that if they choose the third, it is also not how they approach their cat.
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