Dear Eric: Recently, my husband’s family “assumed” that we would organize a meeting for some relationships outside the city.
We have a better house to entertain yourself. I usually have at least one meeting a year for your family. I am happy to do it.
We have a good dining room, but our table was not going to accommodate in the number of people attribute. I configured a second table in the living room, adjacent to the dining room.
While people were aligning to fill their dishes, I heard some shock and saw my two sisters -in -law carrying the additional chairs and place the table on the dining room table. They decided that it would be better if we all sit together. We were like sardines. The wine spilled in my grandmother’s tablecloth.
After dinner, I suggested that we all enter the family room to chat, that we would have a dessert a little later. I was organizing additional chairs in the family room when I looked up and saw my sister -in -law bringing all desserts to the kitchen table. They told me we were going to eat dessert immediately. Everyone tried to balance their dessert plates on their laps. My 8 -year -old niece dropped a piece of chocolate cake at the back.
While we were cleaning, my husband mentioned that he thought his sisters were out of place.
They always have a little “aggressive” leg, but I have made light or ignored it. For some reason, this has really bothered me. Am I wrong to be angry?
– Unhappy host
Dear host: Did it come in the relic and cake in the back? I would also be upset. It can be great when guests believe at home, but not everyone directs their home in the same way.
Let’s say they looked at themselves as useful, many hands make light work “the situation. The work is only light if all hands are working together. It seems that their sisters -in -law need a soft but strong direction:” No, the dessert will not work in the family room. Let’s ate my plan. “
The accommodation can be a complicated and exhausting company, even when done with pleasure. You and your husband should discuss how you want to handle futures “assumptions.”
You can find that your home is not always notable. Or, if he organizes again, maybe he can be the sister manager, freeing him to enjoy his hard work.
Dear Eric: This is “grandfather without joy”, who was given a strict list of acceptable gifts for a grandson, but wanted to buy other things.
How about contributing to the university fund of the grandson? Every time there is a gift to be bought, place something that would have cost to facilitate the future dreams of the grandson. An grandmother can call it the Grammy fund if Shey is an attribution.
Or the gift of time: it can be as simple as a trip to the recess patio, singing songs while pushing swings, or an adventure to the zoo or museums (dinosaurs! Cattle for all: breathe time for busy parents, shared experiences for grandfather and grandfather, and happy memories for everyone.
I am trying to transmit those happy memories with my own son. Who needs more things?
– Happy Grammy
Dear Grammy: I love thesis suggestions. Gift Giving is an act of love and love can come in many ways.
Some readers wrote that grandparents buy what they want and let the chips fall where they can. That is also an option. But I think a little creativity can produce greater memories and keep everyone happy.
Dear Eric: I appreciated her response to the 47 -year -old woman who fights against a terminal disease that felt very alone (“needs company”).
An additional suggestion is that she joins a community of faith, where she can find comfort, orientation and companionship.
We attend our services in our temple almost every week and find all that within our temple community. We mention people at the end of our service that can face a health problem every week through a prayer of Misheberach (prayer for the sick). At least, it reminds us of people who care that they could be support or comfort. The LW can also benefit from that and she can make a new friend or two.
– Find comfort
Dear Consuelo: Faith communities and non -sectarian community groups can be wonderful resources for support, breath and company. They are not for everyone, of course, but if the card writer feels called to a particular faith or tradition, this is a great option.
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